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How I am met as an overweight person

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People treat me differently since I gained weight. It’s an absolutely hilarious and sometimes sad as well as scary experience. It’s like I should be someone to feel sorry for, and I have the feeling that it makes me less interesting to people. Since I have been thin most of my life I know the difference. I find it horrifying that we treat overweight people in the way that we do. It’s like we’re some kind of pariah at times.

Don’t get me wrong, there are upsides, like less women are jealous of me and I’m enjoying a new relationship with men, in which it’s easier to simply be friends. But generally, I find that many people treat me with some kind of “oh poor you” attitude, which is quite disrespectful.

I’m still the same person. I’m a strong, independent woman with loads to give. I gained weight mainly due to medical issues, which are over, so I am loosing weight now. I do look forward to dancing freely again, and to be treated with respect. I’m not talking about the medical issues to excuse myself, just to remind people that there might be other reasons than for example lack of discipline for some to be overweight.

Here below are two photos of me, the thin version is from ca 8 years ago. It’s not a very long time, but it feels like another life. I have to fight and prove myself a lot to get the same kind of respect from people as back then. People seem to think that I have to live a problematic life due to my overweight. That is far from true. I live a great life, right now! I have the same energy on stage as back then, I can mesmerize a room full of people with my stories and fairy tales – when I get the chance.

When you look at the photos, you see the same smile, the same look in the eyes, the same person. Remember that next time you meet an overweight individual. It’s a human being with strength, dreams and power, just like you!

Critique on the first Law of Attraction

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The so called Law of Attraction is widely popular these days, preaching that you can create the life that you want through changing your attitude and beliefs. Visualization is another feature, as well as affirmations and the like. Followed by action, changes in these areas are said to change your life, sometimes completely.

Although I do not deny that changes in these areas can deeply transform the way you live and bring magical transformation into your life, I am critical of the way that it’s being taught, as I’ve written about in two earlier posts – Love creates reality and I believe in magic but remain skeptical towards the Law of Attraction. Now I’m back to utter some thoughts and critique on the so called first Law of Attraction – “like attracts like”.

Like doesn’t always attract like

The “like attracts like” rule dictates that a certain vibration, for example positivity, will attract more positivity from the outside. While I believe that this is sometimes true, I don’t believe this to always be the case. To make it simple, let’s start with look at the opposite, a negative vibration, like sadness. A natural response to sadness is compassion, which is a positive vibration. Just like a human being, the Universe and your guides, ancestors and other beings as well as creatures are perfectly able and ready to react to for example sadness with compassion and comfort. Maybe even a happy surprise.

Sometimes love provokes a negative response

A person who is for example on a spiritual journey and through that deepens their capacity of loving, might actually trigger others around in their traumas and receive negative responses to their loving vibration. And the Universe or your guides, etc, can react with more difficult challenges as you deepen your spiritual journey. This is then not a punishment, but a challenge to grow.

So even if sometimes the “like attracts like” does apply, sometimes I think that it really doesn’t, and this is important to know when practicing manifestation and magic.

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Love creates reality

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So tired of so many in the spiritual world being so extremely focused on manifestation and money mindset. I’m all for people living the life that they dream of, but if I hear “your thoughts create your reality” one more time, I’m gonna scream! 😅

The universe can surprise you

Love creates reality, fueled by passion, with thoughts and emotions as sparks. We create reality together, in a mysterious dance with all that already exists. And a thought or emotion that you have gets an answer from the universe and your surroundings, it’s not a copy-paste function. Just like another person can answer with something that surprises you, or respond to a negative emotion with compassion, so can the universe and the collective consciousness!

Of course there’s also a physical component to creation, doing. And of course we are powerful beings, able to influence and inspire creation with just a bit of focus.

Focus on the heart

But life is full of surprises, and it should be. Our focus should lie on love, compassion and freedom first and foremost. Then manifestation can be a dance that you enjoy, together with existence. To focus too much on manifesting what you want might lead to domination games and the like, and why get into that.

Manifest all you like, sure, but focus on the heart and to be a free warrior of love. That’s the true secret to happiness 🙌

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That the material world and the ego are illusions is just a perspective

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My experience is that reality is made up of different dimensions and a bit more, and that these all exist in their own way. That everything is an illusion is an experience that one can have from a certain perspective, but that does not make it “the truth”, partly because from several other perspectives it is not like that at all. It can be liberating to experience how material reality and the ego are changeable, even appear like illusions or projections, when viewed from certain “states of mind” in lack of a better expression. And of course they can be experienced completely different than they are from the perspective of, for example, the physical eyes and body.

Nevertheless, there are also perspectives from which the material reality is very real and these provide real experiences, which are important as well as a constant feed into who we are and are becoming, which in itself makes them real.

Don’t kill your ego

The ego is changeable, but incredibly important for living. Thinking that it’s an illusion or that you should “kill it” can be a great evolutionary perspective in short instances, however it can be destructive if kept as a constant belief. Letting the ego be free and adaptable, transformative – at a rate that harmonizes with one’s need for a certain stability or permanence in order to have time to reflect and integrate – is rewarding and a prerequisite for walking the spiritual path in a deeper sense.

Thinking that material reality is an illusion can be an inspiration, but if it becomes a dogma, that you believe it is “the truth”, it can be very destructive and lead to, for example, a difficulty to ground yourself and enjoy the physical aspects of life.